Still Love Your Wife Even Though She Wants a Separation? Get Her Back With These Three Tips!

Do you still love your wife even though she wants a separation? Do you wish every day that she would tell you that she wants to try again? Have you tried different things to show her you've changed but only been met with the cold shoulder? Here's why talking isn't working, and three different actions you can take to get her to listen to you again!

Talk is cheap. And chances are, if your wife said she wants a trial separation, she's done talking. She wants to see what life is like without you in it. And that might mean that she doesn't even want to talk to you right now. She might be having as little contact as possible. And she probably told you that she needs space and that she would like you to move out (or vice versa).

Maybe you've tried talking to her to get her back. Maybe you've tried sneaky manipulation tactics, or tried talking to her family or friends to see if they would convince her to talk to you. Or maybe you've used a fake emergency or even your own children to break through to her. But nothing has worked. In fact, the more you've tried, the less she seems to be willing to save your marriage. So what can you do next to get her back?

1. Give her what she wants. She said she wants time to herself. And she made that clear by saying she wants a separation. So if you really do want to get your wife back, you need to show her that you respect her decision. Give her a chance to think about things. This will show her that you really are listening to her and that you are paying attention to her needs. Plus it will give you a chance to think too.

2. Stop playing games. If you really have changed and you want to show her, then you can't use manipulation and lies to get her back. No matter how desperate your situation seems, it is never hopeless. You just have to give her the time and space she needs and approach the situation as a mature adult. Treat your wife the way you would want her to treat you if the situation was reversed. Be honest and truthful so that when you do get back together she knows she can trust you.

3. Once a week or two have passed, send your wife a thoughtful card. Find a picture of the two of you that was taken when you were both happy. Send her the picture, and a short note telling her that you were thinking of her. Then leave it alone. Don't call her to see that she got it. Don't make any grand gestures in the card. Keep it short and sweet. Get her thinking about the good times again and she will be more willing to talk to you. You want her to associate talking to you with happiness, not sadness and frustration.