Three Reasons Why Your Girlfriend Broke Up With You

If your girlfriend broke up with you and left you wondering why, it can be tough. You call her and try to talk about things, but eventually she stops answering. So you can't stop thinking about the break up and what you can do to get her back. And all of the what-ifs keep popping up in your thoughts. What if you had done things differently? What if you had listened more? What if you had taken her out more? What if you had just told her you loved her more often? Would that have stopped the break up? Even though you might not know exactly what caused the break up, here are the three reasons most break ups occur.

1. You girlfriend got tired of fighting with you. If the two of you fought a lot, or if your girlfriend nagged you constantly, she might have just gotten tired of things not changing. Sometimes two people need to figure out how to let each other do their own thing. If one person is more controlling than the other, it can lead to nagging and henpecking. If your girlfriend always had to remind you to do things, then that could be why she broke up with you. Think about it: did you fight a lot over dishes, housework, or laundry? Did you consistently forget to take out the trash or to stop by the grocery store on the way home? Any of these things can make your girlfriend feel like your mother, which will make her want to break up with you.

2. She felt unappreciated. This goes along with number one, but if your girlfriend felt unappreciated, then that could have caused your break up. Girls tend to do lots of little things for their boyfriends. And if you don't notice them, then it will make her feel like the relationship is one-sided. So if she did all of the cooking and cleaning, or if she made you lunch every day to take to work and you never really seemed to notice it, it can make her want to find someone who will appreciate her.

3. She felt unattractive. This could be her issue, but it could also be that you didn't compliment her very often. This happens sometimes when couples have been together for a while. You start to take for granted that the other person will always be there and that they know you love them and find them attractive. But if your girlfriend has low self-esteem, this could also lead to her feeling unattractive, no matter what you say to her. Even if you compliment her all of the time, she might not hear it because in her own head she isn't pretty, or she thinks she's fat, or she feels out of shape. Whatever the issue, if the two of you weren't hitting it off physically towards the end of your relationship then that could be why she broke up with you.

What should you do if you recogize one of these as the reason your girlfriend broke up with you? The best thing you can do is learn from your mistakes and figure out how to fix them. At this point, if your girlfriend isn't answering your phone calls you don't want to bombard her with texts, emails, or voicemails. It is better to back off from the situation for a few days and give her a chance to think about things. You can also write her a short letter and tell her that you love her and want her to come back, but that you agree with spending time apart so that you can both work on yourselves. This will go a long way towards fostering good feelings and making your girlfriend feel more open to talking to you again.